esm: move hooks handling into separate class

PR-URL: nodejs#45869
Backport-PR-URL: nodejs#46511
Reviewed-By: Antoine du Hamel <duhamelantoine1995@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Jacob Smith <jacob@frende.me>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>

Author: GeoffreyBooth