Reduce strictness of delayed event delta fetching

[AndrewFerr]

• Use allow_none=True on the event lookup
• Don't check the room ID of events

Do this to not fail on deltas for rejected events, and to be more in line with how other delta event lookups are done.

MSC4140

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