buffer: make Buffer work with resizable ArrayBuffer

[jasnell]

For release notes:

When a Buffer is created using a resizable ArrayBuffer, the Buffer length will now correctly change as the underlying ArrayBuffer size is changed.

const ab = new ArrayBuffer(10, { maxByteLength: 20 });
const buffer = Buffer.from(ab);
console.log(buffer.byteLength); 10
ab.resize(15);
console.log(buffer.byteLength); 15
ab.resize(5);
console.log(buffer.byteLength); 5

Fixes: #52195