Unsafe Recovery: Add tombstoned tiflash learners into DemoteFailedVoters (#9554)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #9554

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: Close #9624

What is changed and how does it work?

Remove tombtstoned TiFlash learners in DemoteFailedVoters phase

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No code

Code changes

• Has the configuration change
• Has HTTP API interfaces changed (Don't forget to add the declarative for the new API)
• Has persistent data change

Side effects

• Possible performance regression
• Increased code complexity
• Breaking backward compatibility

Related changes

• PR to update pingcap/docs/pingcap/docs-cn:
• PR to update pingcap/tiup:
• Need to cherry-pick to the release branch

Release note

None.

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/retest

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/test all

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/retest-required

[codecov]

Codecov Report

✅ All modified and coverable lines are covered by tests.
✅ Project coverage is 77.67%. Comparing base (0557634) to head (893b755).
⚠️ Report is 5 commits behind head on release-8.5.

Additional details and impacted files

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+ Coverage        75.87%   77.67%   +1.80%     
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  Files              467      467              
  Lines            73920    62369   -11551     
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- Hits             56088    48448    -7640     
+ Misses           14272    10347    -3925     
- Partials          3560     3574      +14     

Flag	Coverage Δ
unittests	77.67% <100.00%> (+1.80%)	⬆️

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[LGTM Timeline notifier]

Timeline:

• 2025-12-02 22:59:56.633732544 +0000 UTC m=+390741.447510106: ☑️ agreed by nolouch.
• 2025-12-03 06:24:33.811263609 +0000 UTC m=+417418.625041171: ☑️ agreed by JmPotato.